Had a good talk with a couple friends recently about marriage, personalities, values, and differences. Someone once told me that we often have a process in dealing with our differences in marriage or relationships. Ignore, Reject, Accept, Celebrate. At first we tend to ignore our differences. When we can’t ignore the differences, we consciously reject them. Eventually we come to accept these differences (they are not necessarily better or worse…they are just different). And finally, we are able to celebrate these differences, embracing and cultivating them and allowing them to flourish.
I continue to pray for the families who lost loved ones last Monday. It has been exactly one week since I discovered the news on CNN, and my mind and heart have been buzzing with a multitude of thoughts and emotions. As a Hokie, I was deeply moved by the convocation and the community/team spirit that emerged. I got chills as I watched and listened, realizing the power of community to heal.
But even in the midst of this amazing display of community, I recognize that there is something much deeper that we need in order to walk through grief. We need hope.
Last night (Hungarian Time), Laura and I happened to turn the TV on and we were immediately flooded with news of the tragic shootings at Virginia Tech. Thanks to all of you who have sent us a note of concern.
As we watched the news unfold, we felt shaky realizing that we’ve spent a lot of time in both of those buildings where the shootings took place when we studied and worked at Virginia Tech. It is incomprehensible for this to happen to such a beautiful and safe community. But more than this, it is unfathomable for this to happen to those 32 victims (as well as the shooter) and their families. So Laura and I pray. We pray that the God who made the universe will be a comforting presence and source of peace for the families and friends in the midst of such pain.
This morning, as I read many more news articles, I could see the common desire, among writers and interviewees, for this broken world in which we live to be put back together. The restoration of the world is indeed an essentially human desire. The Virginia Tech Tragedy, the 1991 war on Vukovar, the First and Second Congo Wars, the full-capacity prisons in the US… We are made for this restoration, for the act of making things better. Perhaps this is mostly the dream of our own personal not-so-perfect worlds being restored to something Right and True and Good and even Beautiful.