Several years ago some dear friends encouraged Laura and I to have a weekly time with each other when we can really talk and share important things. It’s been so helpful. But in the past few months we haven’t been making it happen. One of our resolutions is to re-establish this time together. With kids, work, and activities, there is always one more thing we “need” to do. Always one more thing to squeeze into the schedule. But this is something we love and we feel we just can’t do without.
Our friends P & K also do this, and they have really encouraged us. Tonight we sat in their kitchen talking about this, and we identified seven things which have made these “marriage meetings” valuable: 1) calendar coordination, 2) parenting plans, 3) express appreciation and affirmation, 4) positively share needs and difficult issues, 5) financial update, 6) share what we are learning, and 7) pray together. I guess there are 3-4 of these that we make sure we always cover.
“They say they will love, comfort, honor each other to the end of their days. They say they will cherish each other and be faithful to each other always. They say they will do these things not just when they feel like it, but even–for better or worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health–when they don’t feel like it at all. In other words, the vows they make at a marriage could hardly be more extravagant.” -F. Buechner